Category Archives: Dating
For the past few years I’ve used the same IntimiDATER Resolutions with just one update added in 2014. Go ahead and check that out. I stand by it as it has stood the test of time.
For 2017, I’ve added a fitness component. Of course, I added video to share these innovative concepts of fitness goal measurement and motivation. You’re welcome.
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My request this year is of a unique nature. I was going to ask you to have the elves in IT put together a subset of your master list, with the following:
Let’s face it, sometimes one date isn’t enough. If you really want to increases your chances in this dating game, you’ve got to maximize your opportunities. Yup, I recently had five dates in one night, and you should consider doing the same thing.
Hold on. This isn’t some crazy Tinder, swipe-fest story. Those are better left to my fictional alter-ego, The IntimiDATER. This is really a story about my philosophy of a great way to spend time with ONE person that you’re interested in. I’ve previously referred to the perfect date as a “walk” and this is really the same thing.
Most of us have the practice of making and declaring goals, down pat. Where we falter is with success. Many people have written and said many things to motivate us towards success. On social media, I’m guessing that you can find an endless supply of memes, with inspiring quotes typeset atop awe-inspiring images. The one thing that I’ve heard through the noise, that resonates with me, is finding your “why”. The author and motivational speaker, Eric Thomas, speaks of this as an ingredient for success. He’ll ask you “what’s your why?”. Businesses do this with a “mission statement”. They know why they exist and what keeps them on their path towards success. Individuals can use some of that focus.
If we’re looking at the sacrifices that one must make to be successful in any pursuit, it’s no wonder that so many people give up. If you have a strong collection of reasons “why” you are sacrificing, it might just push to you succeed. What’s my why? Read on, my friends.
The world of dating has certainly changed. We live in the realities of the online dating paradigm. This world offers some amazing benefits to people looking for love, or other, less romantic pursuits. You have access to a massive audience outside of your work and social circles. This can be a great thing. Unfortunately, some negative side-effects seem to be happening, that I will evaluate, with the goal being to encourage us all to Date Better.
It was a year, 2014. We had some victories together and we also left some challenges unfinished. As we rollover into 2015, it is a great time to reflect on where you’re at, envision where you want to be and how you plan to get there. There will be a lot of “enlightened” people calling resolutions by different names. I don’t care if you call them goals, intentions, plans, resolutions or wishes upon a star. There is value if you reflect, envision and plan (REP).
This post will feature my 2015 REPs for myself and apparently my IntimiDATER alter ego has decided to weigh in. This should be fun.
Let’s start with me. The real me. JD, El Jefe, The Great Jefferini or any of a host of nicknames you might know me as. I have some big stuff in store for 2015 and these are the highlights:
Online dating can be a productive and efficient way of meeting a collection of like minded matches suitable for consideration of a long term romantic relationship. Yeah, it can also be a hysterical farce of a show. See the guy picture to the left? Yeah, I use that picture in my profiles because it shows off the side of my personality that is “harmless” as a couple of my friend like to point out. Here I’m using harmless to showcase myself in a vulnerable and adorable state…in bed. This is a vision and a location that I’d like potential matches to consider seeing me in. Sweet and adorable and the distracting contrast of using cold technology to portray a warm and fuzzy moment. Brilliant…I know. Trust me, another side of my personality influences things. We call him the IntimiDATER. Go ahead and “Like” him on Facebook. Do it now before I show you what he thinks that innocent looking picture communicates to the ladies.
It’s not often that you get a chance to share an important first experience with a man, but you are all witness to my first opening of my laptop to “work” in a Starbuck’s, or any coffee shop for that matter. It’s not my first time physically entering a Starbuck’s. I’ve passed through and I’ve always wondered what all of these people were doing with their inherently hydrophobic computers purposefully placed next to paper cups filled with liquid. These people are always here, at all times of the day and night. It’s as if they have no jobs or homes to go to. Now I’m one of those people that people like me wonder about.
A lot of you guys are still single and frankly, I don’t need the competition. We need to get some of you pair bonded, post-haste. I’m not sure if you paid attention when I dropped the Top 10 Single Resolutions for the 2011 New Year’s season, but go ahead and catch up because ALL 11 of those Top 10, still apply. I’ve just added a few to the mix.
Before we get to that, let’s talk about resolutions or whatever you want to call them: visions, intentions, plans…they’re all the same thing. Anyway, why do we constantly set ourselves up for failure? Throw in a few gimmes and you’ll feel better about yourself. I resolve not to make people feel guilty about the fact that they aren’t running a marathon, so I will refrain from running a marathon this year. DONE. I resolve to support the good people who own and work at micro-breweries. COUNT ON IT. I resolve to do my part in solving state problems. For example, prison over-crowding is a problem and I resolve to prevent my temper from adding another number to the system. PERFECT.
OK, let’s jump into these additions to the list of single resolutions!